How Good is Good enough?

Have you ever tried answering 
" How Good is Good enough? Or How much is praise worthy"

And agless question and which never seemes to have been answered and presumably will never have an answer for sure.

The other day at one of our meetings one of the speaker said : " the greatest quality of a leader is the ability to praise" and that is  a place where I know 90% of the time it's a false praise. My question to you is do we really need these praises?

What is this whole game of approval and praises..
It all started from when are children are young and they start doing things because they want our approval and acknowledgement, to the growing pandemic of the number of like and views and followers on social media to the approval of our spouses on everything I cook everything I do then the approval of my children as a mother and viscious circle continues.

Living to please others is no living at all because you will never be able to please

What if we have the ability to shift the centre of locus from external to Internal. What if we were able to give this power to our children too? Instead of seeking external approvals can we play around with the WORDS
SELF MOTIVATION and SELF ASSESSMENT.


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